Discovering Your True Self in Relationships

Hey there! Today, I want to share something really important about relationships. Have you ever felt like you had to be someone else just to make someone happy? I know I have! When we build our identity around what we think a relationship needs, instead of who we really are, it can create a lot of confusion and sadness. Let me tell you why it’s super important to be true to yourself.

In my own journey, I noticed that I often attracted people who needed fixing. I thought my role was to help them heal and be better. But here’s the thing: I was so focused on their problems that I didn’t even see my own! I wanted to be the perfect partner, thinking that if I did everything right, I would finally get the love I wanted. But that didn’t work out as I hoped. Instead of feeling loved, I ended up feeling lost and angry.

When we put someone else's needs before our own, it can make the relationship very unstable. If one person is always trying to fix the other, it can feel like a rollercoaster ride of emotions. Sometimes we might feel happy, but other times we feel sad or even upset. This is called emotional volatility, and it can make everything feel really intense and confusing.

I realized that I was blaming my partner for our problems, not understanding that I played a role too. Relationships are not just about one person failing; they are about both people working together. If one person is always trying to be someone they are not, it can lead to misunderstandings and hurt feelings. 

Social media often shows us perfect relationships, but the truth is, the best relationships come from knowing ourselves first. If we don’t understand what we truly want, we might find ourselves adjusting to fit a story that isn’t real. To have a deep and meaningful relationship, we need to be clear about our desires and values.

So, I encourage you to take a moment and think about what you really want. Are the things you are doing in your relationships aligned with your true desires? It’s essential to take care of yourself and not just focus on pleasing others.

Remember, “Today is the perfect day to start taking care of yourself. Don’t wait until later; do it now.” When we start understanding and loving ourselves first, we can build healthier relationships that make us truly happy.

Let’s all take a step back, reflect on our true desires, and make sure our relationships align with who we are. You deserve to be happy just as you are!