We Are Not Friends 🙅🏾‍♀️

Finding Clarity in Tragedy: A Journey of Letting Go

As I sit here reflecting on the recent events that have unfolded in my life, I find myself grappling with a mix of emotions—sadness, disappointment, but also an unexpected sense of clarity. The tragedy I experienced has been a turning point, prompting me to reevaluate the relationships I hold dear. It’s in these moments of hardship that God has revealed the true nature of those around me, showing me who truly belongs in my life and who does not.

My journey thus far has been anything but easy. It has been filled with challenges that have tested my resilience. Each time I thought I had found a friend, the reality proved otherwise. I’ve always prided myself on being that caring person, the one who shows up for others when they’re facing tough times. I know what it’s like to carry heavy burdens, and I’ve always held onto the hope that when it’s my turn to lean on someone, they will reciprocate that kindness.

But time and again, I’ve been met with disappointment. In this most recent chapter of my life, when I needed support the most, the very people I expected to reach out turned their backs. Instead of inquiring about my well-being, they sought out favors, focused solely on their own needs. It’s as if my struggles faded into the background, overshadowed by their self-interest. 

I can only imagine the questions they have as they notice my silence. They may wonder why I haven’t responded to their messages, why I’ve stepped back from our interactions. The truth is, I am in the process of removing what does not belong in my life. If you’ve shown me that you cannot provide even a sliver of support during my hardest moments—if you can’t be there for me with a listening ear or a comforting presence—then I no longer have room for you in my life.

As I sit here, I realize my circle has become smaller, but it’s clearer than ever who truly cares. The ones who know my story understand the weight of what I’ve been carrying. They recognize that this most recent tragedy could have broken me in ways I can’t even express. And yet, they have stepped up, offering their time, their attention, and their empathy.

So, let me make this abundantly clear: if you are aware of what I’m going through and have chosen not to reach out in any meaningful way, then it’s time for me to redefine our relationship. I will not continue to allow people in my life who cannot demonstrate real friendship when it matters most. 

As I navigate this journey, I’ve learned to cherish the few who truly show up for me. These relationships are the ones I will nurture, the ones that remind me of the beauty in connection. I may be letting go of many, but I am also making space for those who genuinely care. And for that, I am grateful.