When You Have No Choice but to Be Strong, That’s What You Are.

Life has a way of throwing curveballs, and for many of us, there comes a point when we find ourselves standing at a crossroads where strength becomes a necessity. When faced with relentless challenges, the human spirit often rises to meet them, and we become the pillars of strength that others lean on. Yet, what many forget is that beneath that strength lies a heart that feels, a soul that needs connection, and a mind that sometimes doubts.

For the past 14 years, I have navigated through a series of unfortunate events that have shaped my existence in ways I never anticipated. While I may not share the full story with everyone, those who do know often ask, “How do you do it?” Their concern stems from a place of love, recognizing that the weight I carry is substantial. And it is heavy, sometimes unbearably so.

There’s a misconception that if someone can endure, they must be okay. The truth is, I’m not always positive. I don’t have all the answers, and there are days when I’m not okay. The expectation that I should be okay because I have no choice but to be strong places an additional burden on my shoulders. People often assume that I’ll be fine, that I’ll find a way through because I’ve done it before. Yet, what they don’t see is the isolation that can come with that strength—the lack of someone to cheer me on, to engage in quiet moments of understanding, or to have candid conversations about the depths of my feelings.

In the midst of chaos, I’ve reached a point where I crave authenticity and connection in my life. I long for relationships built on sincerity, where people truly grasp the essence of who I am. But standing my ground amidst the tumultuous waves of life is challenging. It’s disheartening to feel that many have lost touch with what it means to be human. In a world where social media validation often takes precedence, the simple act of being there for someone seems to have been overshadowed by the need for online acknowledgment.

I strive to embody the kind of humanity I wish to receive. When I see tragedy, I take a moment to reflect, to feel gratitude for my own circumstances, and to pray for those affected. When I encounter someone in need, I offer my help without hesitation, driven by a genuine desire to support others. Yet, despite my efforts to be open and genuine, I’ve often found that the same compassion is not reciprocated. This reality is not only heartbreaking but also profoundly disappointing.

Perhaps it’s a reflection of the times we live in—where empathy can feel like a scarce resource. But I refuse to believe that this lack of connection defines my worth or the worth of anyone else who feels similarly. We are all human, and we all have needs. It’s okay to seek support and to express vulnerability. Strength isn’t just about standing tall in the face of adversity; it’s also about acknowledging our emotions and embracing the community around us.

So, to anyone who feels the weight of the world on their shoulders, remember that it’s okay to not always be strong. It’s okay to seek out those who will simply sit with you in silence, offering comfort without the pressure to perform. We all deserve connections that are real, relationships that nourish our souls, and the kindness that comes from a genuine understanding of one another's journeys.

Together, let’s reclaim our humanity and build a world where strength and vulnerability coexist, where we can lean on each other, and where kindness is the cornerstone of our interactions.