Understanding Emotions and How to Handle Them

Did you know that our emotions can be tricky? Research from Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a well-known neuroscientist, shows that strong feelings only last about 90 seconds unless we keep thinking about them. If we don’t feed our emotions with negative thoughts, they can fade away quickly!

The stories we tell ourselves can trigger chemical reactions in our brains. This means that the way we think about a situation affects how we feel. It’s important to remember that our emotions don’t make our decisions, but they can trick us into believing they do. So, when things don’t go as we expect, we might feel disappointed. Instead of being overly dramatic, we can reframe our responses and think of positive actions to take.

One way to do this is by focusing on things that make us feel good when we’re upset. For example, when I feel frustrated because things are moving slowly, I try to find something funny to watch. Laughter can change how my brain feels really fast! If laughter doesn’t help, I write in my journal about what’s bothering me. I also try to stay away from people who always think negatively because that can bring me down too. Setting boundaries with negative people is important for taking care of ourselves.

Remember, everyone is focused on themselves, just like you. Think of it like being in a spotlight—most people don’t notice what you’re doing, so it’s okay to put your needs first.

Changing how you talk to yourself is also super important. Just like watering a plant helps it grow, encouraging yourself can help you grow too. Be your own coach! The way you speak to yourself creates your reality.

Visualize where you want to be and build something called “anti-fragility.” This means becoming stronger and better after facing challenges. To build anti-fragility, try to see tough situations as chances to learn and grow rather than letting them bring you down.

Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor reminds us that we must not confuse believing we will succeed with facing the hard truths of our current situation. Sometimes, you have to go through tough times to reach your goals. Be kind to yourself during these times because it won’t always be easy, but it’s worth it!

Stay strong and resilient! Here are some tips to create your own personal resilience system:

1. Set Goals: Write down what you want to achieve and break them into smaller steps.
2. Stay Active: Engage in activities that you enjoy and make you feel good.
3. Connect with Others: Surround yourself with positive people who support you.
4. Practice Self-Care: Take time to relax and do things that make you happy.

Life isn’t just about avoiding storms, but learning to dance in the rain. Every day is a chance to practice being resilient. Like, follow, and share this post if you found it helpful! I’d love to hear from you and share more knowledge nuggets. Remember, I’m always here for you!